1
February 1989-Wednesday
The first meeting of the Gay and Lesbian Historical Society
was held at the Crossroads Urban Center at 7 :00 p.m. In attendance were Robert
Smith, Rocky O’Donavan, Neil Hoyt, Robert Erichssen, Grant Cheever, Brook
Hallock, a woman friend of Rocky who chose to remain anonymous because of fear
of retribution from the Church Archives, and Liza Smart who had given Rocky and
Robert a ride. It was a nice turn out.
Rocky O’Donavan was elected Director and Robert Erichssen was elected as
Secretary. Everyone else in attendance agreed to be part of the first board of
directors. Erick Meyers may be another officer when we vote again next
month. Rocky gave an overview of the research
he has been doing on early Gays and Lesbians in Utah History. We set our next meeting for March 8th. Always the second Wednesday in the month. Brook Hallock landed a bomb shell on me at the meeting. She is convinced that Derek Streeter is a
church spy what she calls a “duck”. She confronted him at Unconditional
Supports last night at coffee. He just smiled and not denying it just asked Why do you think that? My first reaction
was that it's not possible but after Brook made her case I was swayed. I too now
think he’s probably a church plant. I am so honest and upfront with people that
its not in my nature not to accept people at face value even though I always
thought him rather odd.
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February 1989 Thursday-
A snow storm dumped over fifteen inches of snow over night
and Davis District closed schools so I
didn’t have to go to work today. I spent a lot of the day up in the sauna at
the University of Utah. At The Gay and Lesbian Community Council of Utah
tonight I assumed the duties of Secretary/Treasurer. Did okay I guess. It was a small meeting probably due to the snow that was dumped last night. After Community
Council Brook Hallock held a meeting for community leaders about the nature of
informers who she called ducks. Brook Hallock was herself a duck in several
conservative women’s group, infiltrating their meetings to gain access to their
secret agendas. Brook Hallock said there were three types of ducks. Decoy Ducks
were Gays who were blackmailed or coerced into spying by governmental or
religious organizations. “If you are
truly repentant you will do this for us”. Ring Neck Ducks are paid Gay
informers who do it for the money, and Mallard Ducks are actual Church Security
or FBI or CIA plants. Brook told me that she thought Derek Streeter was a Ring
Neck doing it for the money and loyalty to the Mormon Church. Her reasoning was that first Derek Streeter
attends every Gay meeting and function there is. Secondly he’s been out of work
by his own admission and yet drives a new car, has a nice apartment, and has
money to take trips to national Gay conferences. Thirdly Derek had worked for
the Church for the last 15 months at the Missionary
Training Center
in Provo .
Fourthly he does not break the word of Wisdom, still wears his garments,
believes that the Mormon Church Leaders are inspired and that homosexuality is
a sin. Fifthly He is well known at the Mormon Archives where Rocky O’Donovan
was banned and he had Christmas dinner with Brent Metcalf a known Church
Security Spy. And Lastly Derek has been out for six months now and has not
grown in Gay consciousness one iota. He didn’t even protest or act shocked at
Brook’s accusation when she confronted him. Whether he is a duck or not GLCCU
probably need to be more careful about who has access to our membership list.
Other then than I see no real reason to feel concern or we might be feeding
into homophobia. I certainly don’t want to get hysterical. John Reeves called
me before the meeting and I let him know about Derek. Today would have been my
cousin, Gregory Williams 27th birthday had he not been murdered.
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February 1989 Friday-
I went back to work today. I showed a movie “Willow” during
the last half of the day as a “Gold Slip” activity that the class earned for
good behavior. It was a cold nasty day. The arctic blast is beating down on us.
I just stayed in this evening because it was too, too cold. I listened to some
cassett tapes of phone conversations from 1986 and 87. Hearing Billy’s voice is
so bitter sweet. But it seems when ever I think of him anymore it’s not the
good times I remember. They were too few. It’s the bad and sad times that are
my memories. John Reeves called me again from Boston to tell me about a
conversation he had with Geoff McGrath recently. McGrath related how two boys
from the Utah Valley ’s Men’s Group were taking an
Ethics class at BYU. The Instructor asked the class to write about an ethical
dilemma they have had which would be held in strict confidence, These guys
wrote that they were lovers and the Instructor turned them into BYU Standards
Office. McGrath said that Derek Streeter and this professor were best of
friends. Just a thought.
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February 1989- Saturday
I spoke to Dave Malmstrom most of the morning about Derek
Streeter. Dave and Chuck Thomas have come to the conclusion that Derek is
probably a plant. They had thoughts for a long time that either Derek or
Lawrence might be church spies. Derek is always calling Dave for addresses
and such. Alan Gundry, the LDS Church’s so called liaison with the Gay
Community is forming an EXODUS type group for Gay men who are trying to stop
being Gay. He is the same man who lied to Dave Sharpton and Dave Malmstrom about how the church was going to become accepting of Gay people. The Phoenix
Foundation later called Evergreen Foundation an organization founded to help
Mormon men overcome the homosexuality. Dave said he's very dissatisfied with
Mormonism now. Well it’s a bullshit theology, based on greedy, elitist,
racist, and sexist concepts. I went up to the sauna this afternoon but got
caught in another blizzard waiting for a bus. I had to stand for fifteen
minutes out in the howling arctic wind which cut through me to the very marrow.
It had been below zero. When I got home and while thawing out Darrell Webber dropped
by to pick me up for an Unconditional Support officers meeting at his home in
West Valley. I really didn’t want to go but I agreed as not to hurt his feelings.
Alan Peterson and Ray Neilsen never showed up. Kind of a wasted evening. I
never got to go grocery shopping and I am out of cat food. Nasty weather out.
So, so cold, like ten below zero at night and that’s not counting wind chill. I
came out of the closet three years ago.
5
February 1989 Sunday-
I didn’t go to Meeting this morning. It was just
horrendously cold about ten degrees. Jeff from Sandy called and wanted to get
together for sex. So I cleaned up my apartment and he came over about one. He
was a tall, lanky cowboy type originally from Coalville, Utah. He didn’t have
much meat on him but what there was, was all dick. We hit it off so we ended up
going to bed. We just fucked mainly. He brought his own condoms even though I
had my own. That shows to me that he’s probably careful. He came pretty quickly
but it was good while it lasted. We lain in bed and talked a little. He said he
wanted to take me out dinner tonight and a movie. I was touched in a corny kind
of way. It was a sweet gesture. He wanted to go skiing so he left and he never
called back which I didn’t really expect him to do. But it was a nice
experience. About three another man called me named Scott. He also asked if he
could come over and I said certainly. He was really gorgeous. Rugged brunette,
nice frame like a skiers. He didn’t have much hair on his chest. He asked if he
could take a shower and I watched him strip. While in the shower he asked me to
join him so I undressed and stepped in with him. I took some soap and sudsed up
his ass and cock then his back. With lots of hot water streaming down on us, I
gave him a blow job. I was spitting water but it was fine. When we got out of
the shower we dried each other off and applied lotion on each other. He had a
raving hard on as I slipped a condom over his cock. It was large enough that it
was nt easy to slide the condom over it. Then he penetrated me and we had great
sex, doggy style, legs over his shoulders, on my stomach, and draped over the
bed. I finally ended up eating his ass while he jacked off. It was a hot way to
spend a cold, cold winter day. After he left I just watched TV for most of the
rest of the evening. I talked a lot with
David Sharpton today and we discussed what people are saying about Derek Streeter
and about trouble at the Salt Lake AIDS Foundation. I also called Jeff Swell
who has been dating Derek to let him know what people will be saying about
Derek. Dick Dotson who founded a food bank for the Salt Lake AIDS Foundation
left the foundation along with Donald Steward who was the program director of
the People With AIDS Foundation as Dave who was the founder of the People With
AIDS Coalition. Dave claimed that the SLAF was spending its resources
inappropriately by hiring too large a staff, and not making adequate efforts to
use the trained volunteers. David Sharpton and Ben Barr have had a stormy
relationship for some time.
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February 1989 Monday-
I called in sick today because I was just feeling a little
blah from this nasty weather. Its like twenty below zero at night. I’m glad I
called in sick because Susan McCoy called and said her truck wouldn’t start due
to the cold. She asked me how to get to school on the bus. I did up my bills
today. I have about $150 to last me for the rest of the month I think. Mark
Lamar called me this morning from
Indiana. We chatted for a while and I guess he is finally getting used to being
back home. In the evening we had our first official Beyond Stonewall 89 meeting
with all the committee chairs. All were in attendant except for Neil Hoyt who
was speaking at the Utah Valley Men’s Group. The heads of the committees were
the following-Ben Williams Program Director, John Bush Registration and
Finances, Guy Larson Hospitality, Dan Fahndrich Accommodations, Neil Hoyt
Promotion, and Mike Anderson Publicity. We kicked around some wonderful ideas.
Guy is going to have his staff be responsible for a group of cabins, placing
candies, flowers, etc. in each cabin. Wonderful idea.
7
February 1989-
I had to take the bus this morning going back to work. Susan’s
truck is still not working. It was a bitterly cold day thirteen below zero. I
wore two coats to try and stay warm waiting for the bus. Jon Urban came over
last night and we fucked until ten thirty so I was kind of spacey today. The
kids were all cooped up not able to go outside so they were acting bratty.
Susan McCoy said her husband Floyd was coming to pick her up this afternoon so
I did get a ride home. I made some Valentine poster for the Unconditional
Support dance this Saturday and for the school dance. At Unconditional Support
there was a really different crowd turn out. There were a lot of men I didn’t
know. Derek Streeter didn’t come and Ray Neilson held the meeting on “Ducks”..
At the very beginning I said “I don’t
think any body’s name should be discussed here tonight.” It was a pretty
good meeting and more upbeat and positive then Affirmation’s. Billy showed up
at the beginning of the meeting. It made me a little disconcerted and
distracted. After the meeting I purposely went out of my way to avoid hugging
him or having to talk to him. I just tried to have fun with the others. I said
I was going to start a new organization called “Gays R Us” which would be on
call to help other Gays out in crisis’s such as excommunication, legal spats, and
etc. I was kind of spoofing but I do see some value there also. I had to get home right after the meeting
mainly because I did not want to deal with Billy. I didn’t want my tears to
freeze as I walked home. Falling into bed I cried and cried. I am so lonesome
for him. I miss our walks, our talks, his touch, his smile, his eyes that light
up like no one else. I miss his stinky breath in the morning, seeing his bulge
in his BVDs, holding his rough strong hands. Why do I still love him? I saw
Willy Marshall and Jon Butler at the meeting. It’s been three years this month
that I first met Jon. He was one of the very first people I met at the
Restoration Church. A lot of time has gone by since then. A lot of living in
these three short years in the prime of my life.
8
February 1989 Wednesday-
Gawd what a day at work! I’m sure Patrick Stamps
was on drugs today. Adam Shaffer mooned me after class and Darren Carabajal’s
aunt caught him stealing . He was the one who stole the money from Mrs.
Johnston’s purse and other things at school. I also found out my second
evaluation is this week ugh! I had to get up at five thirty this morning to
catch a ride at six thirty with Susan and Floyd. So it was a long day anyway. This
evening I spent 3 hours from 6 to 9 p.m. typing up the minutes from the Gay
Community Council from January and February with Chuck Whyte at the Crossroad
Urban Center and mailing them out. Michael Ortega the director in charge of the
CUC was there also and I kept coming on to him. I am so glad to have the
minutes done
9
February 1989 Thursday
What a day I am having! Oy Vey! Eric Rogers was caught with
cigarettes in his pocket. Did Jeremiah Kite keep all these jerks in line and
now there’s a power vacuum? On top of
this I have an evaluation tomorrow in Social Science. Ugh! Who has time to
think of that? Gawd? I spent most of the evening cutting out paper pictures and
all that fun stuff to pull a lesson together for tomorrow. Ray Neilsen dropped
by. He said he made Alan Peterson is acting like a big baby. What’s under his
craw? I guess Ray made him mad by
mentioning that it was Derek Streeter who nominated Alan for director at coffee
last Tuesday. Derek showed up at Dees but strange that Billy didn’t. Well I’m
exhausted and am going to bed. The weather is warming up. Its twenty degrees.
Well good night sweet prince. I’ve go to get a card off to Fran for her
birthday that’s coming up,
10
February 1989-Friday-
I am so glad to see this week end. I had to do
my evaluation today. I had so much going on that I really didn’t care. Its been
such a bitch of a week. I took the Valentine posters home for the dance
tomorrow, When I got home I called the Central City Community Center to make
sure all was okay for the dance. Then I went up to the U of U to sit in the
sauna. It snowed lightly walking around. I also cruised OSH a little. No activity to speak of.
Tony Feliz appeared on Geraldo Rivera to promote his book Out of The Bishop’s Closet
11
February 1989 Saturday-
Bizarre day. I got up around eight and cleaned my apartment.
I took a late shower about ten thirty and as I stepped out of the shower there
was a knock on my door. Putting on my robe, I answered the door and to my shock
and surprise there was Billy. I had him come in while I got dressed. He even
took my trash out for me while he was waiting. Anyway he said he came over to
get Ed Benson’s address because he wanted to pay him back some money he owed
him. I couldn’t find it right away so then he asked me if I needed to go
shopping. My mind was reeling but I said yes because I needed to get some heavy
ten pound bags of cat food and I didn't
want to have to take the bus. Besides I wanted to find out what he really
wanted from me. At Smith's at 8th and 9th Billy slipped me a $50 bill! He said he wanted to finish paying me back.
Later I said that I was only accepting this money because it means so much to
you to be able to pay me back. He also
wanted to go to Cahoots to look at cards for his sister. I wanted to buy a birthday
card for Fran also so I went along with him. Still wondering what this is all
about. Leaving Cahoots Billy got into a minor fender bender and that totally
stressed him out. However he does now have insurance. Back home I fixed us
some lunch and my resistance was finally worn down and I put my arms around
him. I just wanted to hold him close to my heart. He stayed until five thirty
and we talked a little about us but it was the same old shit. He was letting me
hold him and he held me and yet I still didn’t understand why he is here. Is it
just his quarterly check up to see if I still care? When John Bush came over
for the Delta Institute Board Meeting, Billy left. I invited him over for Sunday
dinner as he left. Anyway John and I went down to check the PO Box. Nothing
except a letter from Alan Peterson. Very Bizarre. He said he was resigning from
Unconditional Support and kept protesting that he was a not a Mormon spy just
because Derek and he were friends. I later called him an calmed him down and
asked him not to resign and come down to the dance and communicate with us. So
he said he would. Blessed are the peace makers. Anyway only John Bush and
Dave Malmstrom met with me for a Delta Institute Board Meeting. However
Dave did bring his boyfriend Chuck Thomas along. They told me that Tony Feliz appeared on Geraldo Rivera to promote
his book Out of The Bishop’s Closet. Anyway we talked a little bit about
the Restoration Church and my early days with Russ Lane before leaving at eight
fifteen to go set up for the dance. The Community Valentine’s Dance began at
nine and lasted until midnight at the central city community center. We made
$136 so we had about 48 people throughout the night. I was paid back the $45 I
fronted and plus we reserved $45 for the next dance. I kicked in enough money
to be able to give $50 to help bring the Names Project Quilt to Salt Lake. Billy showed up
about ten and he was being a real dink. He at one point said I “smelled” complaining of my sweet patchouli oil and he
never commented about how successful that the dance was or even asked me to dance.
When Richard Morris played “Take My Breath Away” by Berlin I just grabbed Mike
Anderson and made him dance with me. I said “This is Billy and my song” and I wanted to bet away from him. Anyway
most of the evening was fun and Billy was mostly a sad distraction. I kept
kissing Shawn Hughes from the youth group. I always thought he was sweet. Doug
Fenstermacher took me home after the dance was over. I was too keyed up to go right to sleep. What
a strange, strange day. It’s so bizarre. Derek Streeter showed up at the dance
and I just treated him no different than anyone else. Fucked up. Ray Neilson,
Alan Peterson, and Darrell Webber and I
finally were able to connect up and communicated Peterson’s feelings and
assured him that we supported him as director. That was major too. When I
left the dance with Doug, Billy said to me that if I need a ride I could crouch
in the back of his van. He had Mark Haslim in the front with him.
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February 1989 Sunday-
Today is Fran’s 44th birthday. I sent her a card
and $20. I stayed up too late last night and was tired all day. I did fix a
vegetarian lasagna for Sunday dinner
just in case Billy did show up although I wasn’t expecting him to do so.
However he surprised me by showing up. However In the middle of a nice dinner
my kitchen sink began to over flow with this black greasy yuck like a demon possessed
house. Instead of thinking that my kitchen sink had a pipe line to hell, I ran
upstairs and sure enough a plumber was there. Whatever he was doing was pushing
up crap through my sink and onto my floor. Gawd! Well I cleaned some of it up
and after the plumber fixed the drain and left, Billy and I went to the couch
to talk. I held him but he pushed me away emotionally. I saw his eyes become
dull and I knew he was going through another mood change. He then told me that
he didn’t love me. That our relationship was sick. That he only wants me when
he’s down and needs my nurturing. When he’s well he seeks other people. Another
blow upon a bruised heart. I then told
him that I don’t need him like he needs me. I’m independent, able to make it on
my own, have a regular sex partner, and have built myself a nice life. I said I
don’t need you. I love you. I told him also I thought he was a dink for
treating me the way he did at the dance. I also said that “let’s make an agreement. Admission through
my door has a price, You must kiss me and allow me to make love to you. If that’s
too high of a price to pay then don’t come around anymore. With that he left
and I was fine until I was watching the Tracey Ullman Show and heard the song “Someone
to Watch Over me”. It made me burst into tears. About nine thirty Jon Urban
called and asked if he could come on over. I said certainly. We made love and I
needed some physical intimacy. Although while Jon was fucking me, Billy’s face
kept flashing before me. I know It will never happen. Jon afterwards said I was
the best lover he’s ever had. That was sweet of him to say and something I
needed to hear after Billy’s rejection. Jon is great in bed too. Great stamina
and virility.
Boyd Paul former member of Affirmation committed suicide in
Washington DC jumped off a bridge on to a freeway.
13
February 1989 Monday-
Tired at work all
day. Probably from the emotional strain from the past weekend. After school I
met with some of the parents of some of the boys in my class. It was awkward for
me but I think I handled it well. Justin Wiberg said that I would call students
in my class “Shithead”. The lying sack of shit. I’d never call any of my
students that. I spent 2 hours at Crossroads Urban Center typing up the
membership lists for the Gay and Lesbian Community Council of Utah. I was so
tired. John Reeves called me later in the evening. Boyd Paul former member of
Affirmation committed suicide in Washington DC and a boy I once dated jumped
off a bridge on to a freeway. I made love to Boyd in September of 1986 but we
drifted apart. I hope he’s at rest now.
14
February 1989 Tuesday-
Today was a different day at school because of Valentine’s
Day. We had the valentine’s dance at the end of the day and the students did a
good job with refreshments and decorations. The kids exchanged cards and little
candy hearts. Susan McCoy and I, this morning, stopped at Smiths in Sunset and
bought a bunch of suckers to give out with work certificates that the kids
could redeem for not doing an assignment. At the dance, I danced with my girls
Becky, Meriah, and Farrah. When the kids were doing a line dance Mrs. Gorringe
and I danced together down the line. It was cute. In the evening I went to
Unconditional Support. Chuck and I made an ad for the March dance before the
meeting. Yesterday I went to the Community center and paid $25 deposit on a dance for March 25th.
There was a fairly big turn out and Ray Neilson led the meeting. He had us
share the most romantic date we had ever been on. After the meeting a group of us went to see Torch Song Trilogy. There’s too much to
write about to properly convey my feelings about that movie, It touched some
strong chord in my own life but a lot of what was in the movie I had been
struggling for here in Utah. I’m glad I came out here in so many ways. It made
me a stronger faggot.
15 February 1989 Wednesday
Justin Wiberg’s step dad came up today wanting to know why
Justin had to stay in during recesses. I told him for lying about saying I was
swearing at my students. The dumbshit then admitted he lied at Monday’s
meeting. I forcefully made it clear to the step dad that I never swore at my students
and called them shitheads. As I said last Monday I used “street talk” to get
their attention when they were being so unruly but it was never directed at
them. I also said while Justin is in my class, he will obey my class rules and
not disrupt my class. He then yanked Justin out. Good.
16
February 1989 Thursday-
Both Justin Wiberg and Eric Rogers were absent today and I
am hearing that Justin may transfer into Mr. Burrill’s class. On the way home
tonight, Susan McCoy’s truck broke downin Bountiful We stopped for gas and the
trunk would start back up. Since there was absolutely nothing I could do and
she was at a convenient store, I decided to try and catch a bus home rather
than wait for Floyd. I walked about a half mile to a 70 Route Bus stop and finally got home at seven. It was
a long, long day. I wanted to go to Boyd Paul’s viewing which was held in
Sandy, Utah but I couldn’t get a hold of anyone so just staying home and stayed
warm. I went to bed at nine because I have to catch a bus to work tomorrow.
18
February 1989 Saturday-
I cleaned house most of the day and went through my files. I
was kind of productive, Susan and Floyd McCoy came over to pick up Susan’s
homework and tests from her class that I brought home for her. They also went
to the liquor store for me and I bought $20 worth of white zinfandel and Mogen
David wines. Michael Anderson called and
wanted to go to the benefit held at Back Street for the Names Project. Michael
Anderson and I went to the Crossroads Urban Center to meet people from
Unconditional Support but only Derek Streeter showed. So we caught a ride from
him. At Back Street I got so drunk on just a half pint of Vodka. I was totally
shit face. The benefit raised $2500 for the AIDS Quilt. That was wonderful.
Darrell Webber took me home.
19
February 1989 Sunday
It snowed almost all day long. I had a hang over this
morning. I never had a hangover before. Jeff from Sandy came over this
afternoon and we fucked. He’s a nice man. Mike Anderson called me to see if I
wanted to go over to Laren and Tom’s for dinner about nine. I walked over there
and it was really slushy. It’s starting to warm up today finally. I suppose be
in the forties all next week. Yesterday I introduced Mike Anderson to Robert
Smith at Backstreet. They wanted to do some “Revues” at Backstreet. At Laren’s
watched some videos and listened to mundane, boring, meaningless chatter
between Laren, Tom and some other airheads that was invited over. I know they
must have some redeemable traits for Michael to like them so much. But
intellectual stimulation isn’t one of them.
20
February 1989 Monday-
No school today for Presidents Day holiday. Yeah! The buses were running today so I didn't have to be a prisoner in my apartment. I graded all my students papers this morning. It took me about three hours. I had so much to do. About one I took a bus up to the U of U and sat in the sauna for a couple of hours reading the newspaper. That felt wonderful. I cruised OSH a little. No action. Jon Urban came over this afternoon about five and we fucked. He was meeting with an old lover tonight and he was nervous about that. I was tired this evening and wanted to just stay in but Jim Hunsaker called about seven and wanted me to go with him to the Lesbian and Gay Student Union. Since I haven't been in a million years, I decided to go. Garth Chamberlain led the meeting on dealing with loneliness. Lots of new faces. Still too young of a crowd for me. I needed LGSU at one time but I've outgrown it. George Marshall was still his obnoxious self proclaim leader of LGSU. Joe Dewey wasn't at the meeting but Liz Pitts was. I asked Brook Hallock to do a
work shop for Beyond Stonewall. I also gave the Youth Group a Delta Institute
application if they want to join.
21
February 1989 Tuesday-
I went back to school ready for a major confrontation with
Eric Rogers mother and Justin Wiberg’s mother. However Mr. Olearain fought that battle for me and supported me
100 percent. Thank god he thinks I walk on water. Justin got transferred to Mr.
Burrell and Eric’s mother told Jack she was sorry for blowing up at me. Anyway
it was anti-climatic. I was so stressed out but very little happened after all
about my alleged conduct.. I went to Unconditional Support this evening. Jim
Hunsaker brought a masseuse, Bill Blevin, to show the group the techniques of
massaging. Bill Blevin gave Jim, who was nude, except for some strategically
placed towels, a full body massage. At the beginning of the meeting Derek
Streeter asked if he could have some addresses of some members and I said I
don’t give out that information. He then asked if I thought he was a Mormon spy.
I said “I don’t know if you are or not. Only you can answer that. I know that people do that sort of thing, although I can’t conceive how or why they
would.” I also said that it didn’t
matter what I think anyway because he will always be welcomed to come to Unconditional
Support as much as he wants and that whether he was a spy or not, I never did
trust him. I said “As long as you profess to be a card carrying Republican with
first allegiance to the Mormon Church I would never trust you. We all have to
prove ourselves trust worthy. All of us. Even you. I don’t see you as one of us. We defend you but you never defend us.”
I think of the Mormon Church, the CIA, the FBI, the KGB, the Catholic Church,
and Islam as the enemy to Gay and Lesbian people. I can never have complete
trust in people who still have vestiges of loyalty to these organizations.
Anyway Billy Bikowski sneaked in at one point without me noticing. When I saw him my spirit went to lead.
Thoughts flew back to a time when I massaged his beautiful body and our
energies flowed back and forth between my hands and his silky warm skin. This man named Tyler Shaw showed up at the
meeting. He called me last Sunday about Beyond Stonewall. He is a beautiful,
rugged, young man. Quiet and reserve
though. Shy? I’m certainly not. Anyway after the meeting Billy came up to me to
say hi. I was cordial to him. As long as he’s at Unconditional Support I will
treat him cordially but if he ever shows up at my place again he better have
his lips puckered or I’ll slam the door in his face. I went out for Coffee and
walked down to Dee’s with Robert Smith, Jim Hunsaker, and Mike Piplim and Billy
tagged along. Mike is leaving at the end of this month to move back to Moab
where he said he’s going to manage a restaurant down there. I sat in a booth away
from Billy and he visited with Brook Hallock mostly. Before going to bed, John
Reeves called me from Boston. He said he had a wonderful date with a man he met
on the computer exchange line. He also said that Massachusetts is pushing for a
Gay Rights Bill and he wants to get involved in the political process. I told
him about Mike Anderson and I wanting to go to New York City this summer for
the 20th Anniversary of Stonewall ad would like to see him in
Boston. That would be so much fun.
22 February 1989 Wednesday
The weather is finally letting up and its beginning to thaw.
Susan McCoy wanted to leave about four so I was home fairly early today. I just
tried cleaning my apartment. I am kind of worn down and wanted to go to bed
early but Jon Urban called about nine and wanted to come over. We fucked and after
he left about ten Jeff Wood of all people dropped by! I thought how bizarre. I
was curious to find out what he might want. So I had him come in. Basically he
said he wanted to be my friend, that I had a lot of qualities which he wanted
in a friend but he doesn’t want to have sex with me and doesn’t want me “coming
on” to him. After politely listening to him I finally said, “Don’t you find
this just a little odd? I mean you come all the way over here at ten o’clock
evidently because I have something about me that you need and then you tell me that you just want to be
my friend and then you set boundaries to that friendship? Don’t you think that
is kind of strange?” Well I do. I was much kinder to him than I should have. I should
have dropped kicked him and sent him on his way. What kind of friend says, “ I
don’t find you sexually attractive?” It’s not only rude by unkind. I sent him
away.
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February 1989 Thursday-
I went to Gay Fathers after work today. The weather is
warming and there is a thaw in the air. There was a small turn out. Only about six of us. John Bush and his boyfriend Mike Connors have
given up smoking and they are climbing the walls they said. I am so grateful I
don't have that monkey on my back. I went after the meeting to The Other Place
this Greek Restaurant on 3rd South with them. . There Mike said
something to me that kind of hurt my feelings. I was telling John Bush about
what Derek Streeter said to me last
Tuesday and Mike Conners jumped all over my case saying that I had no right to
with hold information from Derek and I said I most certainly do. Anyway I felt
like I was being personally attacked more than anything else and I thought “Fuck
you”. I’m still mad.
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February 1989 Friday-
So glad that it’s Friday. We had some members of Ballet West
perform this after noon for an assembly. Other than that noting exciting is
going on. Susan dropped me off downtown and I went to the Post Office on 2nd
South. There was a rejection letter was in the PO Box from Louise Hays. Dan
Fahndrich had asked her to speak at Beyond Stonewall. Then I went over to the Crossroad’s Urban
Center where Chuck Whyte and I put
together the minutes for GLCCU to mail out. I was there at four thirty and
worked until seven thirty. I didn’t do anything else but straightened up the
apartment before going to bed fairly early.
Fran called me this evening. I was kind of down and tired so we didn’t
talk much. The snow is melting. Yay. Its been up in the forties which feels
wonderful. Glad this long winter is breaking up
25 February 1989 Saturday
I got up this morning about eight and watched Pee Wee Herman’s
Playhouse while fixing breakfast. I straightened up the apartment before
catching a 9th East bus to go to Smith’s this morning. There I
boughta March bus pass and some groceries, especially cat food for Billy
Cat. In the afternoon I took a bus up to
the U of U to soak in the sauna. I saw Duane Dawson there and we spoke. I guess
I’m not mad at him anymore. He said he makes $46,000 a year as a nurse. How
would it be? Oh well money isn’t everything and I have enough for my needs I
suppose. After leaving the sauna I went over and cruised OSH. Spring fever I
suppose. At one of the bathrooms I had a close encounter of the weird kind. Some guy in the stall next
to me was cruising me and wanted to give me head. So I get down on the floor
and he was giving me oral sex as I was feeling him up under the stall. Anyway
he then gets up and come next door to see who was in the stall and I qas surprised to see that it was Glen
Camomile! We both turned beet red. Then I started to laugh and I said “You meet
the strangest people here” and he smiled and said, “No, the most wonderful.” He
was right. I still think it’s funny in an embarrassing sort of way to trick
anonymously and then find out it is someone you know. Oh well. I came home
after that walking down the hill rather than taking the bus as it was such a
nice day and I was sick of being cooped up. In the evening, feeling restless, I started calling people on the phone. Nobody was home or either they were going
out and couldn’t visit. I was so frustrated
that I threw my address book against the wall. FUCK!! Then Doug Fenstermacher,
the sweet thing, called and wanted to know if I wanted to go out to the movies.
His boyfriend Don Penrose had gone to play Dungeon and Dragons and Doug was all
alone so we went out. Doug is such a
sweet, gentle spirit. I really do love Don and Doug. Before he came over at
nine thirty, Mark Lamar called to say he was in the hospital. He had lost a lot
of weight and his white cells and blood platelets are way down. He also has
gotten some lesions on his face. He’s scared to death that he’s contracted
AIDS. I’m not even going to deal with this possibility until his test results
come back. Anyway Doug and I went to a
late show and saw Tom Hanks in The Burbs. It was okay with some funny moments.
We mostly went to see it because nothing else was playing so late. I didn’t get
home until about midnight and I was so tired. I went and fell into bed. Why can’t
I find someone as sweet and wonderful as Doug only closer to my age?
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February 1989 Sunday-
It rained off and on for most of the day. I walked to my
Quaker Meeting in the rain under my trusty umbrella. It was like a rainy spring
day. It was good to be at meeting again. Rocky O’Donovan spoke at Quaker Meeting
about making an AIDS Quilt panel for one of his friends. I spoke and said “The other day at work I
over heard someone say “I’m so sick of hearing about AIDS, and when I think of my friends dying of this disease and another one calling me yesterday saying that
he was in the hospital with a low white cell count. I’m sick of hearing about
AIDS too.” Anyway after
the meeting I walked home, read the Sunday Newspaper, and then took a nap. It
was such a rainy day and sleeping weather.
In the late afternoon a guy named Joe called me and wanted to come over
to fool around. He was a good fuck but came too soon. Anyway I decided after he
left that I wanted to go to Affirmation so about six fifteen, I walked up to 13th
East. There was a pretty good turn out even if we had a time getting into the
Unitarian Church building because Russ Lane was late with the key. Tony
Feliz was in town promoting his book Out Of The Bishop Closet. John Butler and
Willy Marshall was at the meeting along with Duane Dawson. It was almost like
old times. Neil Hoyt led a wonderful meeting on “Touching and Getting In
Touch”. He had us hold hands with someone who was a stranger to us and later
taught us touch techniques. It was a really good meeting and just what
Affirmation needed to break down some real attitude problems. Billy Bikowski was at the meeting and once
while I was sitting by myself, he came over and sat by me. He asked me if I was
going to sit in the circle and I asked him, “Does that mean you want to sit
next to me?” He said he didn’t think that far ahead. But I knew that it was his way of
being with me. I know my Billy. Anyway I walked home after the meeting and it
was such a nice evening and not so deathly cold. Halfway home Duane Dawson
stopped and gave me a ride down to my apartment.
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February 1989 Monday
The snow has almost completely melted off the playground
finally. So sick of snow, I had the kids put up new bulletin boards with spring
time themes. I have twenty five students now when I started off with thirty.
Just with those five gone, it makes all the difference in the world. Bac in
Salt Lake I went to the downtown library to check out another book to read in class.
I finished “Ollie Dibbs and the Dinosaur Cause.” Before that I read to the
class Blubber by Judy Blume and bullying. I’m going to read next “It’s Not the
End of the World” by Judy Blume this week. At home made some tostados for supper before Michael Anderson and Neil
Hoyt dropped over for our Beyond Stonewall Meeting. John Bush couldn’t make it.
Mike is publicity and Neil is promotion. We basically discussed deadlines for
the Triangle an getting something together for Coronation. We also made a list
of people whom I’m asking to be facilitators
at Beyond Stonewall. They included Marc Potter, Brook Hallock, Dr.
Patty Reagan, Dr. Michael Elliott, John Reeves, Richard Rodriguez, Ben Barr,
Bruce Barton, Dr. Kristin Ries, Becky Moss, Mark Winter, and Rocky O’Donovan.
Our meeting lasted from six to seven then we all went up to the Lesbian and Gay
Student Union where the topic was Paganism
and Wicca. Brook Hallock and Nancy Diatima Perez, Tom Abizu Jensen and
Becky Moorman were the presenters. It
was interesting. George Marshall was obnoxious and pretentious and the room was
filled with attitude. I was very, very good at keeping my mouth shut until
George Marshall started ragging on how the Christian were killing the witches
in the middle ages which started the band wagon of piling on about how Pagans are
good and Christians bad. I finally gently reminded the group that the Pagans
sic the lions on the Christians first and no group had a monopoly on
intolerance and inhumanity towards mankind. The meeting closed with a Pagan
candle lighting circle. When each person
lit their candle I declined and simply said “my life is my light.” Matriarchy is wonderful as long as it allows
Gay men to develop our own gentle ways. Heterosexual patriarchy based on dominance
and submission is sometimes mirrored in our own community.
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February 1989 Tuesday-
The kids at school are doing such a wonderful job on their
bulletin boards. It makes me happy just to see their creativity. Dancing
Leprechauns, happy bunnies, and lots of rainbows. I am so sick of winter. I went
to the CrossRoads Urban Center early about six to work with Chuck Whyte on
some community Council business such as membership lists etc. Then I attended
Unconditional Support where Alan Peterson led the meeting on the topic of
Dating again and it was boring. But
then I was tired and was just trying to stay awake. Allen has no pizzazz, no oomph.
Which doesn’t make him a bad person, just wearisome. Oh well, he’ll grow into
it. I hope. Billy Bikowski showed up at the meeting and after our group hug, I
saw him going around and hugging everyone especially Derek Streeter. He gave
him one of those deep heart to heart hugs and it hurt seeing that. Well we went
to Dee’s for coffee after the meeting. Wayne Schneider of the Restoration Church
was back in town with Tony Feliz. At coffee Derek Streeter asked me about the Restoration Church and I told him about my former
association with the church and what it then believed. Derek said it was the
first time he ever heard me talk serious about Religion. Garth Chamberlain then
asked me if that was the reason at I didn’t participate in the candle lighting ceremony yesterday’s LGSU
meeting or did I just not have a candle. I said I chose not to participate
in a pagan ritual because of my own personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I
told them that all I have ever done in
the Gay community or tried to do in the Gay Community is from a personal love
for Jesus Christ. Very few people know that because I keep my spiritual beliefs
concealed like at yesterday’s meeting when I said “My life is my life”. Anyway, from coffee we went over to Trolley
Square to go to the late showing of Torch Song Trilogy. I was however really
tired and didn’t feel up to it but I wanted to be a trouper. I saw Mike Pipkin at the show. He said he’s not going to Moab after all. He's staying and will
work up in Park City. Then I saw Billy Bikowski in the theater and something ripped open inside.
Maybe I was just tired or maybe feeling vulnerable but I began to hurt deep in
my soul again and I couldn’t bear to be at the show. The movie touches too
close to home anyway, and to be there with Billy and yet not with him either
was too much for this poor boy to bear. Anger, anguish, angst or what ever
carried me home but before I had a chance to feel good and sorry for myself, I
smelled smoke in my apartment as soon as I opened the door. Somehow the stove
top burner got turned on to high and was burning up a cake pan I left on the
stove. It was just a hazy greasy smoke inside but I was so grateful to God that I came
home when I did and caught it before it burned up my cat and all my journals, I
opened up all the windows to air out the place. It was thirty four degrees outside so
while it was cold at least it was possible to keep the windows open. About ten thirty Jon Urban called
for some loving. I told him that I was absolutely dead and let’s get together
later in the week. Well Billy and Jeff might not find me sexually attractive but at
least Jon does and he has his shit together far more than those boys combined.
About midnight the phone rang and woke me up before it stopped ringing. In my crazed delusion I
fantasized that it was Billy. That somehow that movie had gotten to him and he
finally, finally realized the love he has in me and that he loves me too. Sick
Why do I love that man still?
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